Do You Really Want Your Ex?

When your ex breaks up with you, it's a pretty unsettling thing...to be alone all of a sudden can be confusing and scary, so your first impulse is probably to fix this situation by going back to something you know was comfortable and nonthreatening.

I'm not trying to say you don't still love your ex...but it may not be your ex that you miss and need back so much. It's possible that you just miss the companionship and stability of a warm relationship, and that you'd be just as happy with somebody else. A lot of people are so afraid of being alone that they reach for whatever is familiar and comfortable when it really may not be what's in their hearts.

This may not necessarily be the case for you, and you two may indeed be meant to be together. This could just be a bump in the road, but it could also be an indicator that you're ready for something else. So before you start working on getting your ex back, you need to determine if it's really your ex you want back or if it's just a relationship in general that you need. You may get him back, only to discover that it wasn't really what you wanted and end up breaking his heart by ending it yourself.